So timely - but of course. I am in what I think is an AuDHD burnout (and now my inability to get words out this week on Live and book club make so much more sense). I know you aren't writing necessarily for a neurospicey community...but since SOOOO many women are getting to perimenopause and realizing they are neurospicey (adhd, autistic or both AuDHD)...I canot help but point this out and wonder if this undiagnosed segment of women is also a huge portion of women leaving Corp America? It would make sense since it seems the deeper I get into perimenopause the worse my energy flow is, the less predictable it is. and I am working for myself and doing everything I LOVE...and yet I still cannot seem to find my limits with an ever changing cycle. Real issues!
And, when I have more bandwidth am coming back to look at some of these suggestions. these last weeks I could feel I needed to figure out how to slow down and make a slight change...just too bad my body had to get to this point first. sigh....
oh the joys. I have been searching all morning trying to understand this AuDHDH burnout and to see if there is anything for perimenopause/menopause and am finding nothing. So any tips you have to manage energy during menopause and starting a biz I am all ears (or maybe another post idea??) I am waking up in somewhat mild anxierty wondering how to schedule myself moving forward once I recover (and scared at how long it will take to recover??) whether I stay working for myself or not. God no wonder women feel they just have to quit during this stage. It feels so confusing, lonely and insurmountable when we live in a system that demands concruency (hey that word came fast...that's a good sign!) and repeatable daily life at a certain level.
Sometimes the real challenge is recognizing there's a huge values mismatch with the institution/organization. I know for myself that was my situation, and it was hard. I'd put so much of my time into that job and career only to have to admit that the culture didn't mesh with my value system.
So true. If you’re out of alignment with the values of the institution, it will be extremely stressful. You’re fighting an uphill battle every day and it’s exhausting.
Great stuff here. Balance is one of those words that has always made me feel somehow deficient for not being able to achieve it , esp as a single mother with a very demanding job. I still feel guilty about it so appreciate your reframe as alignment.
Me Too!!! But i think we need to realize that we’re never going to completely achieve balance. It ebbs and flows and sometimes it’s easier than others. We just need to be aware when it’s too overwhelming and self-monitor.
Great, one. Thank you for these important reminders
So timely - but of course. I am in what I think is an AuDHD burnout (and now my inability to get words out this week on Live and book club make so much more sense). I know you aren't writing necessarily for a neurospicey community...but since SOOOO many women are getting to perimenopause and realizing they are neurospicey (adhd, autistic or both AuDHD)...I canot help but point this out and wonder if this undiagnosed segment of women is also a huge portion of women leaving Corp America? It would make sense since it seems the deeper I get into perimenopause the worse my energy flow is, the less predictable it is. and I am working for myself and doing everything I LOVE...and yet I still cannot seem to find my limits with an ever changing cycle. Real issues!
And, when I have more bandwidth am coming back to look at some of these suggestions. these last weeks I could feel I needed to figure out how to slow down and make a slight change...just too bad my body had to get to this point first. sigh....
What you're describing as perimenopause symptoms is also true post menopause!
oh the joys. I have been searching all morning trying to understand this AuDHDH burnout and to see if there is anything for perimenopause/menopause and am finding nothing. So any tips you have to manage energy during menopause and starting a biz I am all ears (or maybe another post idea??) I am waking up in somewhat mild anxierty wondering how to schedule myself moving forward once I recover (and scared at how long it will take to recover??) whether I stay working for myself or not. God no wonder women feel they just have to quit during this stage. It feels so confusing, lonely and insurmountable when we live in a system that demands concruency (hey that word came fast...that's a good sign!) and repeatable daily life at a certain level.
You’ll make it through. Honestly! I’m happy to talk with you about what’s helped me. LMK
Sometimes the real challenge is recognizing there's a huge values mismatch with the institution/organization. I know for myself that was my situation, and it was hard. I'd put so much of my time into that job and career only to have to admit that the culture didn't mesh with my value system.
So true. If you’re out of alignment with the values of the institution, it will be extremely stressful. You’re fighting an uphill battle every day and it’s exhausting.
Great stuff here. Balance is one of those words that has always made me feel somehow deficient for not being able to achieve it , esp as a single mother with a very demanding job. I still feel guilty about it so appreciate your reframe as alignment.
Me Too!!! But i think we need to realize that we’re never going to completely achieve balance. It ebbs and flows and sometimes it’s easier than others. We just need to be aware when it’s too overwhelming and self-monitor.
Absolutely. Important to remember. It's never DONE -- just refining as we along.
Thanks!